I never said any mean word to him I begged him to tell my mistake I asked to be just a friend but he just stopped replying. Is it possible that hes just not the type to text first? Dont just consistenly suddenly not respond. The next couple days we texted each other quite a bit (not enough to be distracting or life consuming) but enough to know that we were interested in each other. Good luck and thanks for the post. Sounds like a good indication of what the rest of your relationship with this person will be like; You doing all the work and him reaping the benefits. Its best to relax and let things flow. I had this thought that he was cheating on me. Reading this cleared my head, and I will definitely be keeping this article handy to go back to anytime I need it. He does look for me, but now and then. Are you prepared for that possibility? I refuse to sit around checking my phone constantly so I just carry on with my life as I always had (im pretty busy since I train for triathalons and I am part of a swim team). Plain and simple: It is within moments of space where we are most able to connect with ourselves and the life within us. So if the texting is so disruptive, then what is the problem with communicating and saying, We need to change our mode of communication because Im enmeshed in business and have to concentrate on what Im doing. My boyfriend hasnt responded to texts in a week.. Im not going to delude myself thinking he needs space, or hes just in his man cave. if i get multiple texts, none f which require a pressing response, im probably not going to respond. Shoudl I stop bugging her? I just noticed over the past few weeks his texting has declined. I am kind of freaking out and dont want to text him first. Like, it hasnt occurred to me to send hey where ru :) or an equivalently off putting message, but he hasnt texted me for three days and its just a bit sad. Is he in a relationship with anyone else? The reason why I was doing a search on this subject was to honestly get some validation! and he said, sure we can, 3weeks from now he told me he will go overseas for work again for 2 weeks, and the next week is his holiday, yes he went overseas for holidays so we really cant see each other so now during the three weeks, what should i do? So me and my ex we text daily and he says that we are friends but acts like more than friends!! Okay so throughout the breakup I made mistakes and texted him, told him why blah blah but I stopped later. I know that the fear that a guy doesnt like me because he didnt text me today comes from insecurity in my relationships. Instead of constantly seeking ways to please my ex boy friend, I find pleasure within myself. You have been SOOOO much help! He isnt texting much at all, I get one or two texts a day. wow.. the single most sensible dating advice ive read in a while objective and to the point. Im 30 and she is 45We met at the bar, talked for couple of hours and exchange numbers. The thing is I work a lot too and I have school yet I never go without keeping up with my friends and family, since they are people that I value a lot in my life. We hung out once a week for the next month and texted pretty often. This is what it said I really needed to hear this right now. Coming from a guys perspective, if a guy is SUPER into you hell get a hold of you. I try to space my text to him but idk what to think if I should even worry. Hi If Im not wrong, this guy I like only starts the conversation once after I told him about it. Don't reflect on the situation in a way that hurts you or makes you feel less valuable! Does it make sense? I had been supportive friend and I love him dearly, and the second time he suddenly broke up with me, I wasnt feeling all confused about why he was acting like a DOG. He did almost the exact same thing as your guy did. He would text me in the morning saying good morning! and I would reply then at the end of the day he would ask me how my day was and we would chat back and forth all day for about 2 weeks then all the sudden he stopped texting me. She immediately said well, call me before you leave and when I told her I was leaving from work the next day she said oh, ok, Ill just text you and all throughout my couple of days away, she sent me random texts a video, a request for me to take pictures of myself (non-sexual I think) because she wants to see me, a photo she took of something outside her apartment. Hes a strange soul, but I know it wasnt meant to be, and life moves on. Read this now and learn exactly how to handle it: If Hes Pulling Away, Do This P.S. Im definitely a natural worrier and insecure to boot so when the guy I like stopped texting as much, I just automatically assumed that he had gone off me. :(, Sounds like my ex !! So i have been talking to this guy that i met and he is really sweet he does t like a lot of drama so we have a lot in common, but since he found out that i wasnt the age he thought i was he had kinda been avoiding me And to add on my friend has been telling him stuff about me that is negitive Should i be mad at her and should i stop talking to him???? One time my friend sent a embarrassing text from my phone. ( not to sound full of myself ). I ran into him today as I was leaving work and he saw me from afar and waved with a smile. I was obsessing over why he hasnt texted me and assuming he didnt like me anymore. However, he works in another town, so he moved back there a couple of days ago, said hed call but still havent heard a word from him. Then I was out for work for like 10 days, when I came back we met again for dinner. It has been 3 bourse and hes the type that is glued to his phone. but im wondering if he playing with my heart? Its all about women standing up for themselves, not a bitch in a bad way but a woman who holds her own read the book. THANKS FOR REPLYING ME!! Texting/calling me everyday, sleepover, planning activities months down the road with me, too much too soon I guess. this guy i think i like we went on our first date and we have been texting non stop for five days and its been a day that he hasnt text me:(. I know he is there, he just ignore me. Im not talking about constant, minute-by-minute response times and non-stop chatting, but if a guy is in the mindset of establishing and participating in a relationship with you, hes not going to unpredictably disappear for days or weeks at a time. The thing is lately he would text me and we talk then he disappears mid conversation!!! I was completely honest and told him that I like him but, if that was how he felt that I understood. Im left wondering if hes given up entirely because of the text mistake or if hes tired of all the texting (which, I have to say that, I was getting to that point as well). We finally had our first date last weekend. Ive just come to accept the fact that maybe love wasnt meant for me. Im kind of going through the same thing. The truth to why men ghost and stop texting a woman when he came back he cancelled the date and never rescheduled but continued to text me. I tried to talk him out of the long drive, but he said he would be all right. If its meant to be it will happen. Make space a priority. Good for you! So I texed him and he was realy sweet it almost seemed like we were thogether again he even textt me and asked me if he was going too c mee tonight. You are ridiculous ! Again a day later. I told my family about what happened, and they didnt like him anymore, they know what kind of guy he is and hes not worth a single kleenex! The fact is none of us are mind readers we will never know exactly what the other person is thinking. What should I do? @Eric Charles: :-/ You totally drove a stake through my heart. He insists nothing has. If you pour your attention on your current relationship, that relationship will grow. If finding the inner space and stillness within you and living there is what recharges your batteries, then one might ask what drains your batteries? The weird thing is that this is easier for me too. I am really annoyed and frustrated with him. Im in a situation right now where this guy who I like so much (I even dreamt about him- I know, its awful!) Thanks a bunch! I so needed to see this for a major wake up call. Karen, like really go to youtube if you want to insult peoples comments, it seems thats all they do there. Scholar, feminine ,stunningly gorgeous, cook , clean , active..etc. Hes been on twice. Now any woman who would not take this behavior as a sure fire sign that either the guy is sociopathically insensitive or MARRIED I think is crazy. hi im wondering why this guy i met hasnt texted me in a week. Make your life your focus and it will make his erratic texting behaviors much more tolerable. I think he knows when hes messed up and he responds by calling or coming over. Just a little freaked out because we havent had the talk yet (I know its still early for that).just wanna know if this fits in with what youre saying above. No offense.. but you may or may not be a mature 24. If you stop, you probably shouldnt start again because I wont respond. So Naturally seeing each other after years brought about a new burst of familiar emotion. Very juvenile I know, i try to rein it in but its uphill all the way. . and is there a way i can get him back? Interesting to see things from another valid point of view.. UGH WHY AM I SUCH AN IDIOT. Although it was right after I introduced him to my dad, he chickened out and stopped communicating with me. For most people these days, its tough to imagine waiting for something or sitting idle without checking your texts, social media, etc. I felt mortified and embarrassed. There are gray areas that is why we google why doesnt he text me back. He is busy with work all the time, which I understand and admire his devotion. Sometimes it bugs me but I dont say anything b/c of everything good that we have. Thanks Eric! THANK YOU SOO MUCH this is exactly what has happened to me, I have hit a bit of a rut in the last few weeks; A dating rut. dont play with people like that especially after getting them so emotionally attached. Why do guys stop texting and then start again? It really helped me out. When we went out I had fun. I should have said there was a lot going on and stress and i really didnt hangout with anyone other than my close knit friends, which is true too. Eric, you are a GENIUS! We ended up texting all night then. Everyone reading your comments realizes that you are probably not that intelligent or successful at anything in life. Yeah everyone should have a fulfilling life on their own being in or without a relationship. Anyways out of the blue stopped texting me, etc, texted him a few times with no response, was heartbroken and so confused . I love that, still, I feel like Im not being respected when he flakes out, gets busy, or whatever you wanna call it, and doesnt text or call to say hes not gonna make it. My situation is as much about the content of the texts (talking about things we are going to do months from now when we havent even met yet) as it is the frequency, but I do think it gets to the heart of the issue. Thanks for all your content, Eric. :) I really like this idea, because I personally get exhausted by the concept that its necessary to always text back immediately. Nearly 2 months later, he showed up. Thanks again! All this passive stuff is stupid. :], And I know obviously you cant speak for all men seeing how everyone is different, but yeah. Anyway, I texted him after 3 hours to say, hey, papi, sorry I missed you, I was here for 3 hours but gotta head out. He called right away and said that maybe we could grab something to eat that night (I think his intentions were good but he cant always commit b/c of work). yes we text like 3 to 4 hours in the evening when we are done for the night. Exactly!!!! Yikes, after writing this message, I realize he is not as interested in me as I thought he was. I read your article and loved it to the core xx. Then there are the sites that say guys are simpleits either game on or game off. When you stop reacting to things automatically, you gain awareness of the situation. Ive known this guy for over 4 moths now. Theres this guy I really like. While waiting for his reply on your last message, try to do something that would make you forget about texting until he replies. Okay great great but fast forward I didnt hear from hear until Thursday4 days later. Again its only been a couple of months. If you waited to text me after 5 days I would have put your number in the spam box and let you eat the silence. also people are like whatever just dont be clingy.. but just saying this is the ONLY way that we talk at all and i miss him. How could a guy that was literally in awe of me, complimenting me, extremely strong connection with, texting/calling, almost everyday, just suddenly go to little texting, no calls, seemingly disinterested in communicating with me all together? Thank you for making me realize that I need to get on and keep my own life! but i tried not to act that way. At first we would text everyday but he would never call me because he said he was shy. I do know that he does have a lot of friends that are girls so I dont want to come across desperate etc. If your initiating then stop and let him, and if he wants to be with you he will contact you, id say within a week, and if not then yes- do txt/call him whatever. funny story, joke, silly picture, questions on plans), but it usually does not bother me if a person does not text back, it really doesnt. This article was very insightful and I enjoyed reading it. and that my dear, is when we start to settle for less and one day wake up miserable wondering how we got to that point yet all the while the writting was on the wall. Time together is important. Then when I turned around he gave me a peck on the lips. The very same thing has happened to me recently, only Im a guy. He hasnt texted me back but has responded to mine, but being very short (which is unusual). He was with me Or other girls. My question is WTF happened?? When he got a phone, he would text me a lot but over the past few months hes steadily stopped. If he really cares for you and wants to be with you then he will be. This is exactly what happened to me. not even kiss me.. thats how sweet he is, and it kills me i want him to hold my hand or something! Im so confused and kind of upset:(. was I called him and he didnt answer, I texted him and he replied a very vague answer, as if he was really avoiding me, but I didnt stop there. Im happy now waiting for the next one, but Ill try to be smart, because Id scare away the last one by texting him..so no big deal, Im dying inside but nothing I can do now. So except the first time, every date would last for more than five hours. So you will understand where I coming from. He texted me everyday and we emailed each other a lot. We spent almost ten hours together last Wednesday. Play it cool. Hehe) so Im gonna relax and just let it progress naturally instead of feeling uptight all the time. But if you can be cool about it and occupy your life with other fulfilling things, youll be able to give them enough space to come around and reach for you when theyre ready. Which I found really sweet. He is young and I know he is probably dating other girls and I wasnt looking for a relationship, only a friendship but he may have interpreted things differently. Put your phone down and find something else to do. But it does get exhausting so I have been trying to give him more space. So basically a woman is just supposed to say he still likes me. People need to get work done and go about their daily lives without a phone in front of their face. I always wonder, if the guy loves you, why wont he even reply you? In the subj line of email he told me who it was) I thought about it and after a couple days called & left a msg with my number. Im confused about how to feel and what to dohelp? After a great night he asked me out for the following weekend and I told him I wasnt sure yet as I might have plans. They dont seem to me like they want to actually date, they just like talking to a bunch of different girls. Great inspiring story! We all have lives, and usually when we are out and about our lives, they do not involve looking at a cell screen. Hi Eric, And it looks like the ignorant is you if you cant accept a different opinion , u expect everyone to like what u like? Would be the same way around vice versa? I meanhe did pay but this seems strange to me. I called him two days ago and left a message, but he didnt call me back. I am not very good at the texting guy thing. I wont believe them. And I think that its true men must be that stupid. by Zak October 11, 2020 I just launched my brand new ebook called Reconcile - Get Your Ex Back Without Chasing Them. As of yesterday the texting pretty much stopped. I met this guy through an online dating website, he seemed interested in me and I was starting to like him. m very tensed sir;(;(.plz help me i dont want to loose him,,i love him so mch. Why doesnt my boyfriend text back when were in a long distance relationship??? Hi i need some serious advice. Its very seldom and he has stoped answering in the middle of the conversation every time. Its been 5 days since Ive heard from the guy Ive been dating for 6 weeks, and he was always bad at texting back quickly or initiating texts, but I have good reason to think that he does like me and isnt just playing me. It all started when i wrote my number on his cup and the next day he texted me. However, the age difference didnt appear to matter to either of us because he never asked my age nor I his but I do know from another person how old he is. I respect what the author of this article is saying here. It pays to just not worry about it because guys get freaked out easily. Then because we were pals I didnt really payed attention when he hugged me in the back. Or, as Ive said it in the past: Your mood becomes your vibe and your vibewill attract (or repel) love from you from every area of life. It seems to be a frequent occurrence that overly available becomes boring quickly and this seems to be a classic case of this many guys (and girls) prefer the uavailable snob/jerk over the genuine alternative. (Im in my early 50s). pleaseee help. I think you deserve an explanation. Should I ask him why he hasnt talked to me as much lately? If youre clearly to busy to let me know or you take two days to respond to my messages, Im gone. Having the same problem, bf suddenly stops messaging for 4 days now, we went outside of the country but he is ignoring my messages (i only send him messages like have a good day, how are you, and only once a day). I love that Eric Charles.. its a very good message to keep reminding females.. Im not sure but I reckon many of us who are not in stable relationships are insecure.. at times..particularly to do with love and finding a new partner and with our girlfriends we are probably used to chatting via text .. and then when weve finished chatting we get on safe in the knowledge of our connection.. with a new man its a little difficult to know that they are not like our girlfriends and we dont have the added bonus of feeling secure .. a great reminder and article.. thank you Eric.. Is it weird if a guy asks me out to see a movie and then I have to figure the times, the movie, and the directions. p.s. We texted the next day but now he has stopped replying to my text and we havent communicated in 3 days, I really like him but I dont know what to do,has he lost interest, should I initiate another contact? All of his bosses and colleagues saw it. Self-esteem is just something you have to gradually work on. Hey! So theres this guy I met at a club and we hit it of instantly. My husband and i see each other often we talk alot but recently he just tells me or cuts off the conversation to let me call you later, let me let you go yeah i am tired i dont know if it is because of a family memver who is very ill or maybe because he is busy or vecause he might be seeing some one else. I think its impersonal and ineffective communication, best left to the Im here Ill be there soon or Im running late messages. Is it ok to text him and start the conversation again? Put yourself in the shoes of another girl who may be going out with him. Thanks for this article! We met up and chat for a bit then went to grab something to eat but then when we were walking he wanted to hold my hand so I let him then later on we texted everyday then he texted me he also like me in high school. And if you need something urgently and immediately,call him. Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. i dont get it!!! What I am saying is dont react to the stuff thats happening or your minds thoughts about things. . . well often talk for hours at a time; hes told me how much fun he has texting me, likes and respects me etc etc. i really like him and i feel so stupid after answering his text cuz he doesnt answer and dissapears till 5 days later and says i told you im busy but he doesnt even set a day to go out either i need your help!! Your situation is same as mine. And at the same time, if you are going to choose to be with someone, it makes sense to swim with the current instead of against it. But after wards he slowly just stopped texting me and I dont understand why!! i dont date a lot, and i just had this really good date last week. I still believe there are good men out there where that is not the case but just communicate differently. Anyone help?? Hey Eric : ). These situations occur all of the time and that it is okay because I have the power to take control of my actions and reactions and this has allowed me to be true to myself and understand that what he thinks or does is not important. You have to TRUST him. I actually work with men and women and there are a lot of cases where men and women need to hear the same things Damn. . I agree Eric. I need to calm down haha. Early on there was a week I had barely heard from him and he was not responding to my messages as quickly as he normally did. still to this moment i have not spoken to him since sunday. Your article is clear in making a point that we need to better manage our emotions. He wrote me back early the next morning saying that he had gotten sick to his stomach. We kissed, gone all the way actually, had some really great conversations since we have a lot in common. Even emergency situations, especially if you like a girl tell her whats going on in your life. It makes me wonder what the heck did I do to give him the idea that I would fall for his cheap moves. It has been over a week. Its day 4. but i still thought you were cool so i kinda wanted to stay in touch through ig. LOL. TRUST ME, i gotta say it again a-MEN. Seriously its simple as that! This is a brilliant suggestion ! My point is, dont freakout. But he things u should start first talking to him You ask him how are you??? Sometimes YOU JUST KNOW when somethings wrong. Im sorry, but I cant get behind this advice And some of these responses are shocking, as well Being kind to a man that disappeared on you for TWO MONTHS?! 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